There are two types of empathic responses that you use when you
connect to others, compassion or pity. One is empowering, the other is
disempowering. One focuses on limitation, the other holds the energy of
expansion. One is helpful and the other is not. With one you disempower
both yourself and the other person and in so doing risk re-opening
karmic cycles with them that you may have already closed.
You make the choice to connect with compassion or pity in a single
instant and then you either become part of others’ drama or step aside
and allow them to light their candle from the light you extend to them.
The less helpful of these two responses is pity because through it you
agree with someone’s helplessness, lack of power, confusion, doubt and
lack of faith. You connect to them from your own woundedness and are
reminded of your pain. With pity you are in agreement with their pain
and feel the best solution is to offer your wound to show them they are
not alone in their suffering.… Read the rest