I went to a party and was speaking with other people about the "love of their lives."  Many had blamed the other person for their sorrow and the changes that had to occur because of their interlude with them.  We know we have evolved when we can see that these were necessary for our blueprint.  The ego can argue all it wants that it was this or that persons fault but it changes nothing and you are stagnating until you understand the blessing they truly were.   In having relationships we essentially catch sight of who we are.  In doing so we allow or disallow the freedom of learning this process.   Each person becomes our teacher not negatively but to propel us onward, to excel to a higher level.  There is a time for arrival and a time for departure.  Let this be natural in all your interactions.   There is nothing to force or to add guilt to a persons consiousness.   Withholding love due to insecurity is not a solution either.   Prevent analyzing and emphasize the ebb and flow of life without controlling the outcome of a situation.  Love is accessible in every moment, in every decision.  It will prevent being ill-mannered when associations alter.   With integritiy love is eternal.