Heavenletter #4234 Heartbeats , June 28, 2012Lit Corner | Posted 328 days ago | June 28, 2012 | 1:06 AM | Short Link: http://sethto.us/9gz
When you want to show love, you may want to show it one way while the one you want to give love to wants to receive love in another way.
Some people make it easy for you to know what they would most like, and some don't. Some might like cash for a gift, for instance, and some never. Some might like cut flowers, and others like a potted plant. Some may like gifts more than anything. Some may care about another form of love much more. The combinations are countless.
It is not that you are to reinvent yourself to suit another person. Nevertheless, what means most to another? This is how it is with love and those you love.
And you might as well know yourself when it comes to how you like to receive love. That is probably how you like to give it. You may not be able to figure someone else out, yet you have many clues to yourself. Know thyself. You will be way ahead.
Love is a common ground, yet, as with artists, composers, books and so forth, everyone has his preferences and not everyone likes the same artists, composers, or books. Having different tastes is not an offense.
Make life easier for yourself. No one is going to be exactly like you. Differences are simply differences. The word differences is often used to mean disagreements, yet there is no disagreement here. Everyone is entitled to be who he or she is. You accommodate each other when you can, when you notice, when you understand.
There is no one who thinks exactly as you do, or sees the same, or has the same wants. Every single person on Earth is unto himself. Fraternal twins are two different people. How can you expect someone to be just like you?
You and everyone are alike in that you are entitled to be who you are. You are entitled to this freedom. At the same time, preferences are preferences, and all preferences are not yours to put above another's preferences. This is a fine line. You know what I'm talking about. Harmony is not dependent upon agreement.
I like the word accommodate. I like the word compromise less. I see accommodate as serving, two people serving each other as best they can. I see compromise as giving in, perhaps two people giving in or giving away, and neither coming away exactly happy. What a world of difference between serving and giving in. Well, what can you do but do the best you can. In any case, you can be aware. And sometimes you can take turns. Sometimes you can. Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn't. And sometimes it's a matter of degree.
Sometimes you can budge. Sometimes you can't seem to budge at all.
Each case is different. Each set of people. The timing. The setting. Who knows all the externals that affect My children in the world.
Love comes from the heart. Love exists, and sometimes the mind can help you. It is a helpful thought to choose to love. It is a helpful thought to know yourself well and come closer to understanding others well too and what makes them tick. The clocks of some go faster or slower. The beats of hearts beat different tunes. Love makes for Oneness, and that does not always mean agreement, nor does it have to.
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