This channeling concerns a group question regarding the well
known channeled phrase "All Is Choice".


You may have
already noticed in thinking about the statement "All Is Choice" on a
big picture, theoretical basis, it is not all that useful in a
practical sense.  It can be comforting to have that as a basis or
background, but the human mind finds it impossible to maintain a real
connection to that idea when also faced with mundane, to
activities.

In other , when you pick up your coffee cup to
take a sip, it is not that useful to you in that moment to imagine how
that small action fits into the overall arc of your life as a
projection of a soul. How does taking a sip of coffee serve you in the
larger sense?  It’s almost impossible to grasp that – and then the
question arises: "how does the act of taking a sip of coffee affect me,
either positively or negatively, in terms of the overall arc of my
life?"   From that moment, from the human perspective, it’s almost
impossible to tell.

And so for some,
a sense of "bullshit" can erupt from this.  The human mind invents
reasons to stave away inner chaos.  The concept of "all is choice" can
be used to push away feelings and to rationalize acts or feelings about
acts in a way that’s typically not very useful to a . An intellectualolder
soul
can have strong feelings about an act, but step back to
intellectualize under an "all is choice" motto in order to be "loving"
and deny negative feelings.

While stepping back and becoming part of that larger perspective is
part of the old
soul
experience, there’s a not so fine line there. When that
stepping back is done to create a denial of what’s being felt in the
present than that is not particularly useful.

Our suggestion about how any person can view their life in terms of
choice in a way that’s empowering would be to instead of looking at
things at the macro level to look at the micro level and to
connect emotion to every
moment:


As I pick up my coffee cup to
take a sip, what am I feeling?  Am I feeling energized?  Am I feeling
frustrated?  Am I feeling hurried because I need to gulp down a whole
cup of coffee before I leave for my day?  Am I feeling complacent?  Am I
feeling bored?

That’s only a small fraction of the kinds of feelings that someone
can feel in the simple act of picking up coffee cup to take a sip.  The
more you are present and aware of what you feel in a given moment, the
more you will feel connected to your own empowerment regarding choice.

Choice within Simple Actions

Let’s examine this more.  We will go back to the coffee cup analogy.
In that act of picking up the coffee cup, you have all kinds of
choices. Perhaps they might be in some ways dependent upon or connected
to other factors. If you’re in a hurry, then you might pick up the
coffee cup in a certain forceful way. If your mind is engaged in
something else and you reach out with a fumbling hand because you
decide you want a sip of coffee while you’re staring at your laptop
screen, that’s another way of being present in that moment.

A small word of caution: while it is possible to be mindful and
aware of what you were feeling in every given moment, that again is not
necessarily useful to the human experience. In other words, you can
get anal about it: "I’m sitting in a chair.  What am I feeling now?
 I’m leaning back a little.  What am I feeling now? I glance out the
window.  What I am feeling now? … "   And you can get caught up, lost
in the midst of intellectualizing.  You would be trying to feel
instead of allowing the feelings to be present. There’s a balance.

Not everyone that we’re speaking to can join in what’s referred to
as an "old
soul perspective
" of stepping back and becoming distant. And
that’s okay – it’s not necessary in order to feel empowered in your own
life or feel good about what’s going on in the world.

When we are referring to empowerment in
this instance, we mean feeling that you yourself have the ability
to make changes in your life as you see
.  The very first step
in that is assessing where you are in a given moment.  This is why we
talk about the micro level, or bringing in an element of mindfulness.

The most useful way to apply that concept is when you feel the "big
feelings" – when you feel a fair amount of emotion.  That’s when you
rest in that and simply ask "what am I feeling?" from within your
presence – from outside your intellect.  Allow the feeling to be there
while you rest
in it.

Question:  I recently
had an experience where my child was misbehaving and getting very
angry, screaming and not listening.  I felt a very strong impulse to
spank him until he "behaved", but then I caught myself because I know
that is very bad for him.  I guess my own childhood pain came out – I
don’t know.  But then I got very tense and pushed away the feelings,
but I still noticed him being very frightened of me and seemingly
feeling threatened.  I guess by stuffing away those violent feelings, I
was also being unloving.  This relates to the nature of choice to me –
both were fairly automatic.  Either I behave like my parents did to me
or I try to repress and do the opposite, but somehow create a similar
dynamic.  I didn’t feel I had any other choice.

This situation is a moment of big emotion.  The parent, feeling all
this welling up inside them, has a moment to create that change from how
they themselves were treated as a child. So the parent can assess
this, starting with the knowing of "I’m feeling this big emotion."

Realize first that immediate action is not necessary. In
other words, following through with that spanking energy is not
necessary.  Removing or changing the emotion is not necessary.  If there
is a big emotion there then this is a time for the parent to sit with
that emotion for a moment without
taking action
.  Allow it to be there.   The action arises from
believing that the emotion can’t be there.  It wants to move
through and out.  Tensing is another way of saying that the emotion
cannot be there – and it also communicates to the child that their own
mirroring emotion should not be there.

Again, this is an invitation for the parent to truly be with that
emotion without moving into action.  This "action" can be external or
internal, such as tensing or rationalizing.  Understand that this
moving into action is likely a pattern for that person that came from
their own childhood (such as with the pattern
of self destruction
).  Whether or not they tense themselves and
try to try to deter any tendencies that feel negative, or they go ahead
and strike the child:  those are two opposites of the same of
non-acceptance.  The trick them would be to simply sit with the emotion
and to let it be there without taking action.

Once the parent does that, other perceptions begin to come up:
realizations that this is a connection to my own life. Realizations that
I don’t need to perpetuate this with my child, that there are other
choices available now that the need to push an experience away has
dissolved.  Emotions are simply energy.  They are an experience.  From
our perspective, all emotions are good emotions, as energy itself has no
value judgments attached.  But people can feel disempowered by
emotions when they have not been encouraged to actually feel them.
 Surrendering to the experience of an emotion is a tremendously
empowering act.

The child’s experience is a little different.  A child is naturally
feeling a little bit disempowered, especially in western cultures,
because of the physical dynamic that already exists. In other words,
they’re a small person and surrounded by big people who make the rules,
provide the structure and the "authority figure". There’s already
an atmosphere of not feeling that they have a choice.  But also within
the child is a beautiful invitation to create a sense of choice in the
midst of what could feel like a disempowering situation. The choice is
about feeling.   The child too has the impulse to take action:  Do I
cower and cover my head?   Do I run away?  Do I try to smile to defuse
the situation?  Those are all potential actions.  But the child too can
simply be with the emotion.

A child naturally does this at a very early age, but in the western
culture is largely educated away from this.  This is true in the modern
world in many Eastern cultures as well. The role of "parental
authority" is a factor in 90% of the cultures around your world now.

We
can offer a practical exercise beyond the theoretical which we’ve
already given you that can increase your ability to feel connected to
the choices in your own life.  We’ve already talked about stepping back
while feeling and allowing yourself to feel when a big emotion comes
up.  Again, that’s useful situation by situation as it comes up for
you.

In order to assist, provide support and create a pattern of energy
movement within you now that can become a foundation for you whenever
those big emotions come up so that you can practice what we’ve already
told you, we can offer this.

This exercise is best if done seated and your spine is relatively
straight. If you are accustomed to a particular meditation posture this
is a good to take a particular posture but it’s not
necessary; you can be seated in a chair. 

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Closing your eyes, take a deep breath and allow it to
float out if you.  Take another deep breath, hold it for a moment and
allow it too to float out if you.  As you release that breath, imagine
your conscious awareness expanding.   Every time you breathe in and
breathe out your awareness expands. In other words, rather than being
tightly placed inside your head, perhaps, it moves to a space outside
yourself. You can start with a space that extends about a foot away
from your body.

Just as you breathe out, allow your
breath to float into that space about a foot on all sides of your body
and allow your awareness to extend to that distance.  It’s especially
important to bring your awareness up over your head to that distance.


Now you can imagine that your awareness has expanded to a place
that’s up above and slightly outside of your physical body. This causes
you to have the sensation that your movements would be slower, more
flowing than you are accustomed to.  You feel wiser, perhaps.

Understand
that within the space you may also incorporate all your emotion world
by stepping up and back and out just slightly. You have the opportunity
to include an awareness of more of yourself than you are accustomed.
Yet this is not a  place of overwhelm. This is where you can be with
those big emotion’s without being overwhelmed by them.


If the idea of choice and empowerment has been particularly
troubling to you – in other words if at times in your life you have
felt buffeted by the winds of chance – then we would suggest taking a
few moments of each day to perform this exercise.  Understand that when
those big emotions come up for you this is the place that you can rest
in while you are allowing yourself to be present within those emotions.
And when we say "be present with" we are not suggesting that you
become detached from and intellectual about them.  But we are suggesting
that from this space you can see them for what they are. You can allow
them into you without creating a need for action.