One of the most beautiful things to witness as a mother or father is to watch the slow growth and maturing of a new soul, born into this world with fresh eyes and a playful, childlike understanding of life.
But what happens when, as a mother or father, you bring into this world a child who displays a variety of unusual and incongruous traits with that of being a youngster?
Instead of being wide-eyed and simplistic, your child is perceptive and complex. Instead of being naïve and spontaneous, your child is sensible and knowing. Instead of being fresh and uncomplicated, your child is experienced and intuitive.
All in all, instead of being young at heart, your child is undeniably and unmistakeable old at heart.
The reality is that if your child does not fit the typical mold of his or her age group, you might have an Old Soul on your hands. And if you didn’t fit the norm of the kids your age growing up, you’re most likely an Old Soul as well.
10 Signs Your Child is an Old Soul in a Young Body
If you are struggling to relate to your child, understand where they are coming from, or simply want some closure, you might benefit from reading the signs below
1. They are otherworldly.
In short, they just don’t seem to be from this world, and often times they are very much in a world of their own making.
2. They are pensive.
3. They struggle to fit in with other children their age.
Sometimes this can result in being bullied and picked on, especially in school, and so they can sometimes live their childhood and pubescent years as outcasts.
4. They can relate to people much older than them.
For example, at school they usually tend to befriend the teachers, and in the family social life, they tend to enjoy talking to older people (e.g. grandparents, adult friends, retirees).
This is because psychologically, they are on the same level.
5. They don’t like listening to authority and can be perceived as “smart asses”.
Instinctively feeling themselves to be equals to their adult peers, Old Soul children tend to get in trouble with figures of authority while growing up, easily seeing through the puerile, flawed and illogical demands they are often confronted with.
Therefore, in school and in home life, the Old Soul child will often not hesitate to argue or wisecrack his or her way out of unreasonable punishments or requests.
6. They tend to spend a lot of their time alone.
This is not because the child is anxious or depressive, but simply because they are comfortable in their own company and rarely need to depend on anyone else to provide them with enjoyment and stimulation.
7. They are very inquisitive.
8. They are “underachievers” or “overachievers”.
However, if your child is more logical and scholarly, they will often rebel against the schooling system, sensing the flaws and limitations of such a system they are forced to be a part of.
9. They are responsible and independent.
While the good-natured Old Soul child is happy to help whenever needed, eventually, if they are given too many responsibilities or depended on too heavily, they will seek distance and freedom.
10. They sound like a “little old man” or “little old woman”.
The best way to describe your child’s wisdom beyond years is that they sound like a “little old man or woman” unexpectedly giving advice and counsel.
From the author: If you are interested in reading more about raising an Old Soul Child, please have a look at my book: “Old Souls: The Sages and Mystics of Our World”
Similar to being pensive, being an introvert would also be a sign of an old soul, as introvertsoften look within for answers (reflection) while extroverts tend to crave the attention of others (ego). I answer a lot of these types of questions in the articles, “Introverts And Spirituality” and “Why Are Spiritual People Generally Introverts?“.
According to Betty W. Phillips, Ph.D., Psychology, “…introverts have been found to constitute 60% of highly gifted individuals. Einstein was an extreme introvert. In fact, in elementary school he was so quiet and withdrawn that he was actually thought to be ‘dull-witted.’ ”
Does your child play with many other children or does he or she prefer to play with a smaller group of children (or by himself/herself)?
Is your child attracted to nature or to the television and smartphones?
If given the choice, the introvert will prefer to work alone or in small groups than with a large group of people. The ideal profession for the introvert does not involve being around a lot of people and may include careers in writing, computer programming, webmasters and graphic design. In the end, the introvert could do virtually any job that an extrovert can do but ultimately, introverts need to find their own space at the end of the day.
Approximately 75% of the world are extroverts, which makes the introvert the minority, yet the introvert will not succumb to societal pressure in order to conform. As children, they may temporarily experiment with the extrovert role but in the end, they will find their comfort zone as an introvert as they become more comfortable about being themselves instead of what society expects them to be. The key is to allow your child the freedom to choose without making them feel uncomfortable about being in extroverted situations. This doesn’t mean to shelter them from being an extrovert. It simply means that they’ll let you know their comfort zone, so pay close attention to how they interact with other children. They may haveextroverted tendencies at a playground but deep inside, some of them may need to recharge their psyche by getting away from other children for a little while.