My dear friends...
Last week I offered here what I called Advice #1 on Grief: Let it out. Find a friend, go to your pastor, minister, rabbi or ulama, check out a grief-and-loss counselor, get to an emotional support group...find someone with whom to let it out.
This week---Advice #2: spiritual healing for a wounded heart.
In the extraordinary final dialogue in the CwG Cosmology, HOME WITH GOD in a Life That Never Ends, God gifts us with the spiritual basis for healing after the death of a loved one. These come in the form of what are called The 18 Remembrances. Among them...
• Dying is something you do for you.
• You are the cause of your own death.This is always true, no matter where, or how you die.
• Death is never a tragedy. It is always a gift.
• The timing and the circumstances of death are always perfect.
These insights into the nature and the process of death open us to a whole new understanding of the experience, causing us to notice that we have been holding it in our reality in an entirely distorted way.
Actually, it is not something that happens at all, in the commonly held definition of the word among people of the earth. Death is simply a movement from one level of existence and everlasting life to another. It is a gliding from the Realm of Experiencing to the Realm of Being. From that realm we will move into the Realm of Knowing, and then, back to the Realm of Experiencing once again, in a never-ending and always joyful cycle of expressing Divinity.
This cycle may not seem "joyful" to all who are experiencing it, but that is because of their point of view; of their perspective. Were they to embrace the perspective of the Soul, they would (as CwG points it) "see the perfection."
All things happen in their perfect order, at their perfect time, in their perfect way. There is, in fact, nothing but perfection playing itself out in the Universe. Do you know how it is possible to know that? Because it is happening.
Unless we are in the Universe run by an out-of-control God, Who has nothing to say about, and no impact on, the events of our day-to-day, we can depend on the fact that if something is happening, it is the Will of God. And if it is the Will of God, it is for our own highest good.
This includes our own death-or the death of a dearly loved one.
Yet how can "tragic" events be for our own good?
Taken from the Soul's perspective, all things that occur, occur because it is perfect that they do so. And this is because the Soul knows and understands the Overall Agenda of the Totality of Your Being (that Essence which you call "You").
It is important to understand that You came here (to the earth, I mean) to undertake a particular mission. You are not here by chance, nor are the circumstances of your birth or any aspect of your life as it proceeds the product of chance. Rather, the Universe and every element in it (including every element experiencing Life as an adventure here on earth) is a constant expression of All That Is in All The Ways There Are in All The Moments That Exist in the Always of Forevermore.
We are God, "godding." We are Divinity, expressing. We are Singularizations of the Singularity, knowing our Selves in our own experience.
When we understand this, we never again grieve for another-no matter how tragic or "unnecessary" the death, no matter how "unfair" or unexpected the circumstance. Indeed, we celebrate, knowing that the Soul of our Beloved is likewise celebrating, and now experiencing Its Continuation Day, having chosen and perfectly created the moment and the way of Its transformation from the physical to the nonphysical.
We may mourn our loss, but we will not grieve theirs, for they will have lost nothing and gained everything.
Next week: But why is Life so difficult if everything, including our own death, is chosen?
Love and Hugs,